The Awesome in Queer

Have you ever felt like you are being treated differently because you are queer? If you have, then you're not alone. If you say no, then you are probably too fabulous to notice. Kudos, my friend. We have all been there - it may or may not be obvious but in one way or another, we are given that 'special' treatment. It comes with the whole being 'out' thing. 

Being different is not something you should feel bad about. But it shouldn't surprise you either. Among the many minority groups, the LGBT community is one that gains a close tie between hate and love. (I believe it's because we're intimidating. I mean, in what way besides "altering Christian values" as we are falsely accused of can we be harmful?)

I have had people tell me that they have lost friends when they came out of the closet. I have had people tell me they question themselves if they have made the right decision to come out because everybody has been treating them differently since. Personally, I hate the fact that coming out of the closet changes everything for some people - especially family ties (but I'll get to that in another entry). Being out of the closet shouldn't bring you down. If anything, it should boost your self-esteem. Hey, weren't you able to come out of the closet? You should be proud of yourself! You have made it this far. Don't come out just to go back in. 

I am writing this entry because I want you to help you feel great about yourself. We can't let them push us around or treat us as if we are carrying some kind of disease. We have to show them that just like any other person, we are capable of doing wondrous things (and we are disease free). & that we can be awesome too. 

Awesome & Queer vs Queer & Awesome?

Some people are awesome as individuals that happen to be queer. These are people who have made the world a better place with their awesomeness and their queerness doesn't change anything. If anything, they are loved even more. Personally, some people I would consider as "Awesome & Queer" are Neil Patrick Harris, Zachary Quinto, and other people who have been awesome way before they came out of the closet. But then again, both guys I mentioned are good-looking fellows who are great actors. It's kind of hard to hate on them. 

Now those people who are "Queer & Awesome" are those who I would say have learned to embrace their queerness. They are the ones who have made a name for themselves after coming out of the closet. Confidence is attractive and it's vital in surviving this vicious world we are living in - too competitive, too judgemental, too hypocritical and in reality, it's survival of the fittest. "If you can't beat them, join them". Why join them when you can outshine everybody? Be awesome! Start by being lifting your chin up. An example of someone who is "Queer & Awesome" could be me. Before I came out of the closet, I used to be so dull. I was a nobody. Look at me now - a liberal owning an identity, happily giving people advice and advocating for the community. But what makes me really "Queer & Awesome" is the fact that I am happy. ( What I mean by "awesome" is feeling great rather than being greater than everybody else) I am a living a life without doubting myself or trying to hide who I really am inside. If you have to get it out there, get it out there. I promise you happiness. 

You can be awesome too. Take one step at a time and I assure you, every step of the way is going to be worth it. 

BE AWESOME. I can't stress that enough. I am telling you, next to yourself, I am going to be the second person to be proud of you. :)

Fact: I say "awesome" a lot in my daily life. It's my favorite expression. Awesome, right?